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by LaShawn Wiltz, Everyday Eye Candy
Some moments in life stand out as the moment when your realize you are at a crossroad and
it’s time to choose.
I remember when I reached mine clearly: my husband was out of town AGAIN for a work trip
and I was in the middle of my regular evening routine: homework, dinner and working...all at the same time. I had been a pro at this juggling act for 4 years. And even though it left me exhausted, I felt like I was doing what I was supposed to do. But at the beginning of last school year, I kept dropping all the balls. And my son….was not thriving. So on that dreary day in
November, I hit a wall: my son had a breakdown in the middle of fractions, my boss emailed me that my productivity was down in the evenings (of course, my child was home) and I burned dinner.
I held it together until my husband got home a few days later and just poured out my soul on how I was failing. In every single way. Bless him, he listed to my frustrations and all of the ideas I had for making it all right and then he said those magic words to me:
“Quit and work for yourself.”
Not working at a full time job with benefits, paid time off and a 401K had never occured to me. I have a very expensive college degree that I worked hard for! My parents raised me to be VERY independent and not to depend on anyone. Even a spouse.
Entrepreneurship with my Blog as a side hustle?
Oh yes, I had flirted with part time entrepreneurship for years with my Blog, but I never considered doing it full time. I didn’t want to own my own business. Entrepreneurship isn’t for everyone, and I was convinced that I was firmly in that category.
But my work schedule was killing our life. Every day, Monday through Friday, I parked my son in front of a TV while I worked in another part of the house. I missed homeruns, programs and was always too exhausted to spend any quality time with him until it was bedtime. I half listened to every conversation in my house because I always had half of my mind on what else I had to get done. I was mentally, physically and emotionally exhausted.
But to actually quit….
The idea took hold and after a lot of soul searching and plotting and budgeting and praying and a sheer leap of faith…
I had so many doubts. Would this really work? And now, 3 months in, I can say it’s been the best thing ever for our family.
Entrepreneurship was the right choice for my family
When my family and I sit down for dinner together in the middle of the week, I know it’s working. When I can take a school trip with him and see his happiness to have me there...I know it’s working.
When we can go to the park instead of rushing home from school so I can get back to work, it’s working.
When I can sit and take the time to explain homework without having a nervous breakdown on either of our parts, I know it’s working.
I have days when I’m unsure and when I worry about where my next check is going to come from. But I love it. I love making my own schedule. I love being able to just rearrange everything with no drama when my child is sick. I love the thrill of signing a contract and the joy that comes when I get paid for doing something I love.
My journey into entrepreneurship started out with reluctance, but it’s been the best thing for MY family. It’s working for us.
And that’s what matters.
LaShawn Wiltz is the creator of Everyday Eyecandy where she blogs about motherhood, her life, her passion for capturing everyday moments through photography and trying to find her version of balance through it all. She is a 2015 BlogHer Voices of the Year Recipient, Mom 2.0 Summit IRIS Award winner for Best Instagram, and technology editor for Mom2.com. Her work has been featured on the social media platforms of notable brands such as Shutterfly, BorrowLenses, and VSCO Cam. Based in Atlanta, GA, you can find Lashawn on Instagram, documenting her days as a wife and mom - coffee in one hand and her camera in the other.
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